A LITTLE TRICK FOR DEALING WITH GUILT

One of the things that can hold us back from feeling unstoppable is guilt. The guilt we feel when we take time for ourselves. The guilt we feel when we decide to rest. The guilt we feel when we look after our needs when there are so many others seemingly demanding that we meet their needs.

This guilt hits everyone. Parents and non-parents. Women and men. And, oh my goodness, as mothers who travel for work, we have had to deal with guilt in spades.

Guilt rears its ugly head for us when school parents comment on how hard it must be to be away from the kids, or how nice it is to see us dropping the kids at school, or when our kiddies are crying as the taxi speeds us away to the airport.

Over the years, we’ve learned to manage the guilt.
And today we want to share the little tricks we use.

The next time you feel an attack of guilt for doing what you KNOW in your heart of hearts is the right thing to do – for you and for your dearest people – try this:

Tip One – Sit with the feeling

REALLY feel it. Let it wash over you and enfold you. Then ask: What am I really feeling? Chances are you’re feeling something else entirely. Gem, for instance, upon finding herself sobbing in the airplane toilet, realised she was feeling sad. She’d miss the kids. They’d miss her. But they would all be fine.

You might be feeling FOMO (fear of missing out). Or you might be worried about others’ judgement of you. Just recognising what the real feeling is can be enough to move past the guilt.

Tip Two – Ask yourself…

Would I make a different decision? If I had the choice, would I still choose to do what I’m doing right now? If so … then OWN your decision. Make the most of it. Get as much happiness and fulfilment and learning from it as possible. Because the alternative … missing out on the full experience because you’re so busy feeling guilty … is, when you think about it, rather pointless.

If you WOULD make a different decision, then make a commitment to yourself. Next time, you will decide differently. For now, though, the decision is made … so go enjoy yourself!

Tip Three – For the parents…

Remember that you are teaching your children how to parent. Do you want your kids to think that ‘good parents’ give up their dreams and hopes and passions all the time? Or, when your kids are parents, do you want them to be happy and fulfilled? You’re the role model – they will follow your lead.

If you want more on this topic, did you know we just released a three-part training series? We talk about dealing with guilt, as well as doubt, fear and procrastination. Access the videos here.

In the meantime, we’re sending LOADS of love from Germany! We’re here for the German premiere of Embrace (and just quietly from Gem: how proud are we all of Taryn? She is AMAZING. What a woman).

Hugs & kisses

Gem & Taryn xoxo

PS. Our Unstoppable program has launched its seventh round, hurrah! Find out how to become unstoppable here.

A TRICK
FOR DEALING
WITH GUILT

One of the things that can hold us back from feeling unstoppable is guilt. The guilt we feel when we take time for ourselves. The guilt we feel when we decide to rest. The guilt we feel when we look after our needs when there are so many others seemingly demanding that we meet their needs.

This guilt hits everyone. Parents and non-parents. Women and men. And, oh my goodness, as mothers who travel for work, we have had to deal with guilt in spades.

Guilt rears its ugly head for us when school parents comment on how hard it must be to be away from the kids, or how nice it is to see us dropping the kids at school, or when our kiddies are crying as the taxi speeds us away to the airport.

Over the years, we’ve learned to manage the guilt.
And today we want to share the little tricks we use.

The next time you feel an attack of guilt for doing what you KNOW in your heart of hearts is the right thing to do – for you and for your dearest people – try this:

Tip One – Sit with the feeling

REALLY feel it. Let it wash over you and enfold you. Then ask: What am I really feeling? Chances are you’re feeling something else entirely. Gem, for instance, upon finding herself sobbing in the airplane toilet, realised she was feeling sad. She’d miss the kids. They’d miss her. But they would all be fine.

You might be feeling FOMO (fear of missing out). Or you might be worried about others’ judgement of you. Just recognising what the real feeling is can be enough to move past the guilt.

Tip Two – Ask yourself…

Would I make a different decision? If I had the choice, would I still choose to do what I’m doing right now? If so … then OWN your decision. Make the most of it. Get as much happiness and fulfilment and learning from it as possible. Because the alternative … missing out on the full experience because you’re so busy feeling guilty … is, when you think about it, rather pointless.

If you WOULD make a different decision, then make a commitment to yourself. Next time, you will decide differently. For now, though, the decision is made … so go enjoy yourself!

Tip Three – For the parents…

Remember that you are teaching your children how to parent. Do you want your kids to think that ‘good parents’ give up their dreams and hopes and passions all the time? Or, when your kids are parents, do you want them to be happy and fulfilled? You’re the role model – they will follow your lead.

If you want more on this topic, did you know we just released a three-part training series? We talk about dealing with guilt, as well as doubt, fear and procrastination. Access the videos here.

In the meantime, we’re sending LOADS of love from Germany! We’re here for the German premiere of Embrace (and just quietly from Gem: how proud are we all of Taryn? She is AMAZING. What a woman).

Hugs & kisses

Gem & Taryn xoxo

PS. Our Unstoppable program has launched its seventh round, hurrah! Find out how to become unstoppable here.

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