I’m meant to do something more:
I JUST DON’T KNOW WHAT!

Every now and then, an Unstoppabella will come up to us and say something like:

I watch the two of you, and I see that you love what you do, and that you’re making a difference in the world and … well … I WANT THAT TOO! I have a feeling I’m meant to be doing something more meaningful – something that gives me joy – something that makes the world a better place – but I have no idea what. Can you help?

And our answer is always, “why YES, we’d love to help!”. We know from sometimes painful and bitter experience that not living on purpose can feel miserable. We also know that as soon as you start taking little steps towards living on purpose, life starts to feel quite delicious.

So, for you, here are our three top tips to the age-old dilemma ‘what should I do when I grow up?’

* Note: we think 72-year-olds are spring chickens, 88-year-olds are in the prime of life and 94-year-olds** are just getting started … so this question can be asked at any age.

** Also note: we fully intend to still be dancing and drinking margaritas at 94. Just putting it out there.

Tip Number One

Start doing what makes you happy, excited, scared, curious and/or interested

Gem has an ex-boyfriend who, whenever he saw a discarded glove on the pavement, made it his mission to walk in whichever direction the index finger was pointing. We want you to do the same thing, only we don’t want you to follow the fingers. We want you to follow your feelings. Use them as clues, and follow them without thinking too much about it. 

When we say start doing what makes you feel happy, excited, scared, curious and/or interested, we mean start doing EVERYTHING that makes you feel this way, even if it makes no sense. Your purpose is found by following anything and everything that pricks your ears up with curiosity, or sends tingles of excitement and fear down your spine, or makes your brain alert with interest. 

For Gem, the moment she started exploring the possibility of Inkling Women was the moment a new friend asked ‘would you ever start your own business?’ and instead of giving her usual reaction of “no, I have two mortgages and two kids under three”, she felt a shiver go up her spine and found herself answering “Hmmm. Maybe”. For Taryn, it was the time that someone asked her to tell her story in front of a group of people, her ‘go-to’ response had always been, “No, I hate public speaking, thanks but no thanks.” But without thinking she said, “Yes!”

Follow your feelings. Even when they make no sense. In fact, especially when they make no sense.

Tip Number Two

Answer three questions

Grab a pen and a piece of paper. Brainstorm your answers to the following questions, one question at a time: 

1. What do I LOVE to do, to the point where I lose sense of time and get wholly absorbed in what I’m doing?

2. What am I, in all honesty, really bloody good at?

3. What do others thank me for?

An important point here: DO NOT EDIT your brainstorming! Anything that comes up is fine, even if it’s ‘plucking out my husband’s ear-hair’ or ‘making rhubarb pies’.

Once you have brainstormed a list for each question, your next job is to circle any themes that occur across your answers to the three questions. 

Then, pretend you are reading someone else’s answers. And complete the following sentence: ‘For this person to be really really happy, s/he needs to …….’.

We have used this exercise with hundreds of women, and it never fails to produce an a-ha moment in terms of uncovering your purpose in life.

Tip Number Three

Start believing in magic

Tip 3 is unapologetically woo-woo, and with good reason: IT WORKS. Even if you are a proud skeptic, we’d encourage you to just pretend you believe in magic, if only for a fortnight. Here’s how:

For 14 days, we’d love you to assume the following:

1. You are here to make the world a better place in a way that only YOU can – by drawing on your unique talents and passions

2. The universe wants you to find your purpose and sends you hints and clues to help.

If you are rolling your eyes at us right now, just think back … our bet is that, at one point in your life, the perfect book or the perfect person or the perfect opportunity came your way at the perfect moment.

So, for the next little while, pay attention to the people, books, songs, poems, articles, phone calls, unexpected emails and opportunities that come your way. And, if any of them make you feel (you guessed it) happy, excited, scared, curious and/or interested … TRUST THEM! And go for it.

With much love,

Gem & Taz

PS. It’s ALMOST HERE! Next round of Unstoppable kicks off THIS MONDAY! Don’t miss out: Head here to register.

I’m meant to do something more:
I JUST DON’T KNOW WHAT!

Every now and then, an Unstoppabella will come up to us and say something like:

I watch the two of you, and I see that you love what you do, and that you’re making a difference in the world and … well … I WANT THAT TOO! I have a feeling I’m meant to be doing something more meaningful – something that gives me joy – something that makes the world a better place – but I have no idea what. Can you help?

And our answer is always, “why YES, we’d love to help!”. We know from sometimes painful and bitter experience that not living on purpose can feel miserable. We also know that as soon as you start taking little steps towards living on purpose, life starts to feel quite delicious.

So, for you, here are our three top tips to the age-old dilemma ‘what should I do when I grow up?’

* Note: we think 72-year-olds are spring chickens, 88-year-olds are in the prime of life and 94-year-olds** are just getting started … so this question can be asked at any age.

** Also note: we fully intend to still be dancing and drinking margaritas at 94. Just putting it out there.

Tip Number One

Start doing what makes you happy, excited, scared, curious and/or interested

Gem has an ex-boyfriend who, whenever he saw a discarded glove on the pavement, made it his mission to walk in whichever direction the index finger was pointing. We want you to do the same thing, only we don’t want you to follow the fingers. We want you to follow your feelings. Use them as clues, and follow them without thinking too much about it. 

When we say start doing what makes you feel happy, excited, scared, curious and/or interested, we mean start doing EVERYTHING that makes you feel this way, even if it makes no sense. Your purpose is found by following anything and everything that pricks your ears up with curiosity, or sends tingles of excitement and fear down your spine, or makes your brain alert with interest. 

For Gem, the moment she started exploring the possibility of Inkling Women was the moment a new friend asked ‘would you ever start your own business?’ and instead of giving her usual reaction of “no, I have two mortgages and two kids under three”, she felt a shiver go up her spine and found herself answering “Hmmm. Maybe”. For Taryn, it was the time that someone asked her to tell her story in front of a group of people, her ‘go-to’ response had always been, “No, I hate public speaking, thanks but no thanks.” But without thinking she said, “Yes!”

Follow your feelings. Even when they make no sense. In fact, especially when they make no sense.

Tip Number Two

Answer three questions

Grab a pen and a piece of paper. Brainstorm your answers to the following questions, one question at a time: 

1. What do I LOVE to do, to the point where I lose sense of time and get wholly absorbed in what I’m doing?

2. What am I, in all honesty, really bloody good at?

3. What do others thank me for?

An important point here: DO NOT EDIT your brainstorming! Anything that comes up is fine, even if it’s ‘plucking out my husband’s ear-hair’ or ‘making rhubarb pies’.

Once you have brainstormed a list for each question, your next job is to circle any themes that occur across your answers to the three questions. 

Then, pretend you are reading someone else’s answers. And complete the following sentence: ‘For this person to be really really happy, s/he needs to …….’.

We have used this exercise with hundreds of women, and it never fails to produce an a-ha moment in terms of uncovering your purpose in life.

Tip Number Three

Start believing in magic

Tip 3 is unapologetically woo-woo, and with good reason: IT WORKS. Even if you are a proud skeptic, we’d encourage you to just pretend you believe in magic, if only for a fortnight. Here’s how:

For 14 days, we’d love you to assume the following:

1. You are here to make the world a better place in a way that only YOU can – by drawing on your unique talents and passions

2. The universe wants you to find your purpose and sends you hints and clues to help.

If you are rolling your eyes at us right now, just think back … our bet is that, at one point in your life, the perfect book or the perfect person or the perfect opportunity came your way at the perfect moment.

So, for the next little while, pay attention to the people, books, songs, poems, articles, phone calls, unexpected emails and opportunities that come your way. And, if any of them make you feel (you guessed it) happy, excited, scared, curious and/or interested … TRUST THEM! And go for it.

With much love,

Gem & Taz

PS. It’s ALMOST HERE! Next round of Unstoppable kicks off THIS MONDAY! Don’t miss out: Head here to register.

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